This can happen in romantic relationships involving a narcissist, but it can also happen in family relationships with narcissistic family members.

One day you can be one of the favored children, the next you are being scapegoated and demoted to an unlovable child.

I know, because it happened to me in my narcissistic family.

I was “replaced” by one of my eldest sisters when my narcissistic mother and golden child sister began my devaluation.

I was discarded because I began seeing them for who they really are, and began calling them out on it.

I was part of their inner circle until I started calling out my golden child sister for some of the things she’s done to me.

This is not something that you do in my family. We were trained that she was above all of us and that we weren’t supposed to question anything she did. If we did we would face the rath and rage of our narcissistic mother.

One day, I hit my limit, so I emailed my golden child sister. I told her that she hurt me when she did certain things that involved my son and that involved our parents. I see now that everything she did was her attempt to manipulate my relationships with others.

Her response was that I hurt her. I hurt her with the truth. That was one of the things that caused her to start turning on me.

When I moved back to my home town she hardly visited or contacted me. She and the other sister, who I believe is a malignant nsrcissist, would pick up our mother and drop her off, without dropping in like they normally would. They also ignored my little son who was 5 at the time.

Them doing that, and the golden child sister not giving my eldest son a Christmas gift were another huge sign I was being turned on. They use your children to get to you.

By ignoring my children, they were showing me how unworthy I was.
They both adored my eldest son, but suddenly they started treating him completely different. I think that is why it was so easy for him to also go no contact with them. He noticed the change in the way they treated him too.

Ultimately, them treating my children like they didn’t matter was the reason I went no contact with both, my narcissistic mother, and narcissistic golden child sister.

We are all better off without them. I see that now, but somehow it still hurts, and here I am, still grieving the loss of the family I thought I had.

I expect I will be grieving the family I thought I had for a long time to come.